Dating Tips Letting a girl know you’re for real

Or better yet, how do you let her know that the vibe youre putting off in the beginning is the real you?

How does she know that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?

All three of these questions have the same answer.

Credibility.

When most guys think they dont have enough value, 90% of the time, its credibility they lack. In fact, most of everything used to create value these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.

(and anyone whos anyone KNOWS I dont even teach value. Not for a damn second!)

Player vibe is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

Being able to create credibility is one of the key components to sleeping with a girl quickly.

The other component is sexual tension.

And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

So lets get down to it:

There are three levels of credibility.

1. Safety 2. Commonality 3. Direction

Safety: The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you.

Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.

Direction: You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.

A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->

You have to realize that every person you meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you have social programming. We all do.

Its not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary, its very useful.

Realize that although we understand a lot of a womans behaviors come from her social programming, we cant expect her to realize that.

While men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have evolved an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to raise children.

And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.

Her programming is her reality. Her programming is literally her world.

And credibility is about showing you understand her world.

HERES AN EXAMPLE ->

Think about if you were in your bedroom. Comfortably warm sitting in a chair.

And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold. And wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.

You would feel pretty uncomfortable with him. You might even think hes crazy.

Hes showing you that hes not seeing the same reality as you. Hes in his own world.

I bet you wouldnt trust a guy like that.

Because he has shown you that he doesnt understand your world, and doesnt respect your world – you probably wouldnt connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

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